Finding the one

Rich parents like Zhao are increasingly playing matchmaker for their offspring, with varying success.

Although Wang Yue in Shanghai has so far rejected all of the partners "approved" by his family, Qian Zhongxing said his mother has helped him find true love.

After also being forced to split up with a girlfriend from the countryside this year, he is now planning to marry a woman introduced to him by his parents.

"I'm not mature enough to judge what will make a happy marriage," said the 28-year-old, "so I have to listen to my parents. They have more experience than me.

"They know what kind of woman I like and they also found one they like. It's win-win," said Qian, who recently took over his father's trading company and four clothes factories in Wenzhou, Zhejiang P=rovince. "I'm lucky to have found the one." The wedding is planned for next August.

Several parents are also enlisting the help of their children's friends to find suitable matches.

Amateur matchmaker Chen Qixia, 46, said she regularly organizes blind dates between wealthy friends in her native Wenzhou. So far, she has successfully forged two fuerdai couples and has become well known among the business community.

"I only offer my assistance to the sons and daughters of good friends, as I have a better idea of what they want," she said. "When we say well-matched, we're talking about similar educational backgrounds and whether their parents have the same amount of fixed assets and property."

However even for well-matched fuerdai couples, Chen insists prenuptial agreements are still vital to prevent conflicts in the event of a divorce.

According to data provided by a Shanghai law firm, almost 90 percent of the divorce disputes it handles between people without prenups are over the division of property.

"Scientifically speaking," said Zhang at the Shanghai Psychological Society, "shared attitudes and values, as well as similar upbringings and education backgrounds, can potentially provide the foundations for a solid married life.

"However, although a parent's desire to find a good match (for their child) is wise, it's not essential," he added.

Names of fuerdai and their parents have been altered on request.

(China Daily December 31, 2010)